Looking after people at work starts with noticing when something isn't right.

For employers and managers

You don't need to be a therapist to make your workplace a safer place for someone who is struggling.

Employers often spend a large part of the week with their staff. Sometimes you will notice a change in somebody before their friends or family do.

A member of staff might be experiencing problems at home, bullying, abuse, harassment, financial difficulties, mental health problems or something they do not feel ready to talk about.

Your job is not to diagnose the problem or solve someone's personal life. You can listen, take concerns seriously and help them find appropriate support.

What might you notice?

Everyone responds differently when something is wrong. One sign on its own does not mean somebody is in difficulty. A change in someone's usual behaviour might be worth noticing.

Becoming unusually quiet or withdrawn
A noticeable change in mood or behaviour
Appearing frightened, anxious or distressed
Unexplained injuries or frequent injuries
Suddenly struggling with attendance or punctuality
Receiving repeated calls or messages which appear upsetting
Becoming unusually tired or having difficulty concentrating
A sudden deterioration in their work
Avoiding a particular person or appearing uncomfortable around them
Saying something which suggests they do not feel safe
Don't assume you know what is happening. These signs have many possible explanations. The important part is noticing a change and giving the person an opportunity to speak if they want to.

Starting a conversation

If you are concerned about somebody, you do not need a complicated speech. Find somewhere private and start with what you have noticed.

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Choose somewhere private where the person feels comfortable.
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Explain what you have noticed without making assumptions. For example: "You don't seem yourself lately. Is everything OK?"
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Listen. Give them time to speak and don't pressure them to tell you more than they want to.
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Ask what would help rather than deciding for them.
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Where appropriate, help them find professional support.

Good boundaries matter

Caring about somebody who works for you does not mean becoming their counsellor.

Managers and employers have a position of responsibility. Clear professional boundaries protect the employee, the manager and everybody else in the workplace.

Staff should know who they can speak to if the person they are uncomfortable with is their manager.

Young workers and people who are already vulnerable need particular care. Friendly workplaces still need clear boundaries around personal contact, inappropriate comments, unwanted attention and relationships at work.

Create a workplace where people speak up

A policy sitting in a folder is of little value if staff are frightened to use it.

Make sure people know what behaviour is expected, what is not acceptable and who they should speak to when something concerns them.

When somebody raises a concern, take them seriously. Avoid dismissing something because you did not personally see it or because the other person says they meant no harm.

Where a concern involves abuse, safeguarding, harassment, immediate danger or possible criminal behaviour, seek appropriate professional advice rather than trying to investigate everything yourself.

Working Together

We created our Working Together: Boundaries, Safety and Speaking Up document for our own workplace at Jacob's Bagels.

We are making it freely available to other employers and managers who might find it useful as a starting point for their own workplace.

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When someone needs more help

Jacob's House provides routes to organisations which specialise in different types of support.

If someone tells you they are in immediate danger, or you believe there is an immediate risk to life, call 999.

Remember: supporting an employee does not mean you have to have all the answers.

Sometimes the most useful thing an employer can do is listen, recognise the person's concern and help them reach somebody qualified to help.